anonymous letters - what to do?

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don't know what to say. I hate the idea that i kinda feel not trusting him anymore if ever i prove my speculations right...we have a daughter and i hate this games! I just want to figure this out myself coz i know he'd think i'd be silly for doing so...i just want to prove myself.. If it's really him or not..then I have to make a decision whether we have to go on separate ways...

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compare handwritings, should be easy enough

Feel like a csi Agent

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pi...d=374786223639

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ah ha that's a genius idea I know where you're coming from and I don't want to add to you mistrusting him but if you have a gut feeling about something it's hard to shake!! maybe make something up to scare him IF IT IS HIM!!! tell him you contacted the police and they rang saying they traced the letters??

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it's written with a computer and printed

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Girl thanks! honestly, i did tell him that. That it's under investigation.

Ofcourse, he got mad more...and i told him that incase i prove myslef right then it's over.

..however, another letter came. So, i really don't know if it is really him

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you're in a tough spot not knowing what to believe!! and I hope you find some way to figure it out!! just can't figure out why he's not worried about this if it's not him doing it.....is he not freaked out by it all?

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Laser or inkjet printer?

If it is a color laser printer as used in offices, things are easy: Get a print your husband printed at work and compare it with one of the letters. Not the things you can see, but the ones you cannot:

http://www.instructables.com/id/Yell...er_Spying_on_/

http://www.eff.org/issues/printers

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2008/02...tracking_dots/

In short: If the tracking dots look the same, you know who needs a shrink.

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I wouldn't worry about it. This happened to me too very soon after I joined an internet message board funnily enough, so I posted it all up and got tonnes of advice which was just what I had hoped would happen.

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If you are so suspicious of your partner,then there is something not in order .Dump him

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I know you moved far away and you probably do not read local news anymore: The current fashion for Swiss psychos is to rape their ex-girlfriends when they try to dump them and threaten them with a knife...

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You are joking ,are you ?

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You say these letters allude to personal information, that they mostly arrive soon after you two have had a fight, and that they echo things he has said during the fight.

Thin walls, cranky neighbors? I'd assume that before I would assume it was him.

Other than that, I really don't see what you want a bunch of random Internet peeps to do - shall we come play Private Eye outside your letterbox?

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Where do you guys manage to find such lovely partners? Really you lot live such exciting lives.

1- If you suspect it is your partner then it most likely is.

2- Maybe he is cheating on you and the other lady wants you out. He moans about you to her and as a result she know everything about you.

3- You have a neighbour with a stethoscope.

4- Your partner wants out and is too chicken to say it and this is his way to mess with your mind.

5- Someone does not like you (neighbour or family member).

Irrespective of whether it is him or not your posts indicate to me total lack of respect, love, understanding, caring and communication in the relationship. Sorry to be blunt but the relationship seems to be dead. You can continue to play with the skeletons though.

Why do people put up with so much crap? It is better to be single than in a bad relationship. Is it really that difficult for people to understand?

Dr Phil.

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grumpy neighbor.. exactly what I was thinking.

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Why would he send you letters then hide them and not let you read them?

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What a cool troll, it's been awhile.

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This is tricky, but can you find a way to give false information to your partner (and him only), and see if it gets back to you in an anonymous letter? Of course, if he will not let you see the letters, ...

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This sounds like a terrible situation. I am sorry you are going through this, no matter who is sending those letters. If I had some wacko threatening me in a foreign country, didn't have a partner to lean on and support, had to take care of a kid...I would probably forward think and investigate about woman's shelter nearby. One never knows. Try searching here, there are some threads here on what to do when you cannot stay at home.

Now, how is your relationship with your MIL? Is your honey still attached to her by the umbellical chord? Is she supportive, interested in your daughter, helpful, or does she do weird, unsupportive things? Does your partner call her often? Like...after a fight? Do they have similar vocab?

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Unfortunately, I have always found the gut instinct is pretty accurate. Definitely seek some legal advice. These letters and their arrival needs to be documented and reported in some official way. Good luck to you! That sounds very stressful.

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YES, throw them away (if they really ARE anonymous)

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Do you not fit into that "ehrenwertes Haus" ?? as

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZO1AgURC58

Well, THOSE folks really did sign

Back again, you simply cannot take anonymous letters seriously, really NOT

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"Legal advice" in such a case can be costly. But, yes, you may be quite right that it, as it apparently happened repeatedly, regularily, to go to the nearest police station, and place a "Anzeige gegen Unbekannt" in regard to "fortgesetzte persönliche Belästigung"

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If a letter is not registered, it cannot be traced down to the sender.

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this aspect is a bit circumstantial. There are now more than 10 mio. people of Egyptian origin living in Western Europe. And some other 20 mio. waiting for the chance to emigrate to Western Europe !

More countries like that ? Yes, Algeria for example, where everybody wants to emigrate to Europe. Abdelaziz Bouteflika then will switch off the last light, before coming to Switzerland.

Unfortunately, no joking involved. He is accused to have raped his girlfriend by threatening her with a kitchen knife. That girlfriend in Germany apparently believed to be THE one, and knew nothing that he was married (divorced some two years ago) and has two children. And now, another young women claims also to have been a friend of Mr Kachelmann. Nothing is clear or proven, and his lawyer apparently is aiming for an "Ausser-Gerichtlicher Vergleich"