If you know your child isn't going to like being at a place you want to go:
- make sure he's entertained with a toy
- spend as little time there as possible
- take your child to a place where he can have his tantrum without upsetting everyone around him
- placate him through a promise and then follow up on it
- find a babysitter
- don't go
Unfortunately, I've read it's against the law not to send you kids to school where I've come across some of the worst offenders.
My two kids are almost out of school. One child needed more help at school and there was only one teacher who didn't recognize that. The teacher and I were on the constant warpath with each other.
My other child had good teachers throughout his years.
Sometimes it's the draw of a straw.
As for taping a child's mouth, since we don't know the circumstances around it, it's hard to draw any conclusions. It just might be that the kid deserved it.
And I consider taping somebody's mouth as violence.
Not in the Victorian sense of being seen and not heard - but heard in turn and politely. There is a big difference. Certainly around here people are great with kids, and yet expect them to behave. Being happy and joyful is not the same as being loud and raucous.
In one of our local seconday schools here, a teacher actually hit a kid after weeks, months and on that day, extreme confrontation. He knows and has admitted he was wrong and should have been able to control himself, and has apologised. Are the other kids and parents trying to get him sacked? No, they have been to the school and even marching in the street to re-instate the teacher and asking for action to be taken against those few kids who are making it impossible for lessons to take place in a friendly and positive atmosphere, for something to be done to give teachers 'power' back to ensure the majority of students can learn without threats and disturbance. A very fine line, I know (having taught in inner city schools in the UK where teachers were regularly threatened by parents of 'little angels' who made life a misery for others- if a teacher dare to take steps to curb this). One reason that if I had to return to teaching- it would be here in CH and not in the UK.
The good of the collectivity is still, just, ahead of the right of the individual here. And kids are still, generally, made aware that every right is matched with a responsibility. And not a bad thing either, no?
Taping a child's mouth does seem extreme and un-acceptable I have to say. There are other ways to deal with noise!
You cannot seriously believe that an adult can tape a child's mouth under any circumstances. Get a grip.
We don't know and that's I refuse to condemn until the facts are here. Kids tend to tell only one side of the story as many others do as well.
Again, as a form of punishment, it's inappropriate and I would be the first one to talk to the initiator of this sort of punishment.
BTW, my British passport holding but definately international children are nicely behaved kids, but even they get poisonous looks from people, perhaps in anticipation that they are going to be naughty.
It seems to be a very challenging thing for a parent to deal with and when my little one arrives, who knows if I may go through something similar.
'fraid not. I've had more than my fair share of nonsense here in Basel
That is the 2nd time today that one of your posts has surprised me. Has your account been hacked as you are usually much more sensitive
By shouting at her or reasoning with her I am spending time on the behaviour and encouraging it rather than ignoring it and letting her deal with it herself.
Of course, I turn bright red and get het up, and I hate it. But people giving me looks does not help.
OTOH, on buses etc people are really nice when she is being good, a random old lady gave her a knitted stuffed toy for example, so I praise the heck out of her when she's good.
I believe it's called positive parenting, rewarding good behaviour and ignoring the child when there is bad. Since I started it I've had fewer paddies.
But I do remembering time on our way to the airport, we were sitting early morning in the train to Zurich. My daughter was in a beautiful mood and chatty it was just a great moment, she was happy!
A lady didnt appreciate to see a smiling little girl and thought it was better to make her cry instead. So here she was with her angry and squeezed face shhhhhhhushing at my daughter very loudly. Everybody around gave that lady a WTF look and smiled at us. My poor baby was going to cry when I started to make fun of the woman so she could think it was a joke.
Stupid biartch
Thanks for your concern. Maybe I'm just having more problems expressing myself today. Thanks for the heads up. Have a good one!
Masking tape is designed to be relatively low tack and will come off easily. You should be using duct tape.