Being late to pick my daughter up from school

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They can but little kids tend to go off into a panic if mum isn't there at the time she said. Older kids would probably be a bit more "yeah, whatever" about parents being late on the pick up from somewhere but a 5 year old will feel abandoned and panicked within about 30 seconds.

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No need for that really is there? Dare I say you are ever so slightly over reacting again.

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You dare say anything you like, whether it is true and makes sense or not is another story. Going on previous and especially recent post history, I know which direction I lean towards.

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I am not getting into an argument with you.

Just did not see why the scathing post was necessary towards the OP. You like to question peoples mental health a lot which in some ways mocks the seriousness of mental health issues based on the very little evidence you have for you regular diagnosis.

All I am saying is, target your bullying tactics a little more appropriately.

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For that you need to look at it from the child's perspective, not your adult one! You never know what insecurities the child has. Not all can be expressed by the child at that age. Many years ago, when we were in a similar situation, our child would insist that we (anyone there to pick him up - mum, dad, any of the grandparents, uncle...) be visible to him the moment he would emerge from the school corridor. Even if there was a fraction of a delay in he spotting us, he would start bawling. It was always a struggle for me(dad) to wade through the group of mums waiting in front of me to be there right in front for him to spot me. We still talk about it when we go down the memory lane.

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Bullying, yawn that old bandwagon term... I seem to note some verbally abusive rep from your side over the last couple of months. Is that bullying too? No, as I guess I don't have your (and a couple of others here) victim complex.

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Well of course they might. But on certain days, for whatever reason, a teacher may have to leave promptly- and do the rest of the work on another day, or take it home, etc. May well have a doctors appointment, as said, or their own child to pick up, or a staff meeting in another school - or whatever, etc, etc. It can't be expected that teachers will automatically always be staying at school every day after lessons, day in, day out. So a polite apology and thank you would do no harm, would it- and show that the teacher is not totally taken for granted. Oils the wheels, and all that.

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No, I just give it back to you when you mouth off.

That is why I said target your victim more appropriately. The OP hardly offered anything worthy of your snide remark but you still had to give your ego a rub by putting someone down on the internet.

Such a tough guy.

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Yes, because first and foremost among my thoughts is looking tough on the internet. Funny that you should mention it though...

Anyway, I think the thread has been trashed enough now, so I'll leave you to your silent stewing.

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I started reading but I think it got turned into another thread, so I will just share my experience.

My kid's kinder krippe has a policy, if you are late, even for a minute you will pay a fee of 20chf per child per every 15 min that you are late. ie. I have 2kids and I'm 1 min late I pay 40 chf, if I'm 29 min late I'll pay 80chf and so on. So I needed to find alternative solutions not to pay that much if I am ever late (which I have)

I need to take 3 bus, 2 of them are almost everyday late so I leave with much anticipation to go to their krippe . When for a reason or another I'm running late, I just call and there is not a problem if im just 5 min late the teacher wont report it, but that's totally up to her.

My best solution was to make friends with the moms that live near the place and Im very fortunate that the best friend of my older son lives right next door and other 3 moms live also around the krippe so when I have been late I call any of them and ask her to take my boys for some minutes and I go pick them up directly to her place. I have never been later than 15 min, but I feel more at ease with my friends welcoming my kids to their place than having them be the last ones to be picked up and a teacher probably stressed willing to go home earlier. And anyways we always organize play dates so my kids know their place and everybody is happy

Hope it helps, integration is hard and I understand is not being neurotic, but I also had some fears of others thinking Im not doing a good job as a mom. Now i give a blip, my kids are happy and that's all I care.

Ps, my boys are 4 and 3, if you haven't met more moms with kids we can organize something to meet more moms. I used to attend a lot of EF events but I stopped when my German got better and I started to make friends with the moms around my area but we could do something if you feel like it.

Best,

Kali

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I'm sorry guys but this thread is not about you. Nor the OP asked for a psychiatric evaluation. Would you be kind to take it outside?

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I would love too but he only talks tough online.