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for free

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Back in the day, people who met their partners through introductions probably said the same about bars what people are saying here re dating sites. Luddites you all. The world has changed, try to keep up.

As for meeting your loved one in bar as they suggest otherwise ... really? Yeah like that works. And how many threads do we have on how unfriendly Swiss people are towards strangers in bars. So location wise, def a bad suggestions.

At least with the online sites, you can specify some limited criteria and good sites do very in-depth questionnaires to help things along.

All ways work and all ways don't work.

May I suggest badminton clubs.

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why look for dating websites if you can go out and meet people along the streets, clubs, workplace, shopping area anywhere?

It appears to me that you're quite lazy, don't want to do any work.

Remember online dating is not dating - it's Entertainment!

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maybe to avoid meeting people like you?

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How I wish people would do that so that I can have a quiet day

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Update:

Two contacts, no dates and it's a great way to practice my German skills.

I try to avoid the chatting stuff. Chatting with strange men, especially during the day, just seems weird and uncomfortable to me.

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And be careful of surprises too!

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..who says that they have to be Swiss..she could meet some random expat....or a boring Canadian like yourself. I actually know of 2 people whom have met their current loved ones at a bar.

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Yes, avoid chats. These are guys looking for "instant results" and to be avoided at all costs!!

Yuk!!

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I think that dating websites are useless if you're looking for a serious relationship; as real attraction goes way beyond an avatar and a bunch of interesting lines from an email.

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Very true, which is why the intellectually astute regard dating sites as a facilitator, not a substitute, for face-to-face interaction.

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Yes . . . but presumably after a bit of email, you decide to meet someone in person?

The dating websites are there to introduce people, not to form relationships via purely electronic means.

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I'm starting to suspect some of the critics of online dating here are people who would be having trouble dating in any format.

Of course it doesn't work for all, just like relationships where the couple meet in a bar, blind date, church, etc. don't work for all. And of course there are lots of people one would like to avoid on these websites, whether they be married people, those looking for hook-ups only, or just plain jerks. But, there are also plenty of normal people on there that can be met if one sifts through the others.

I hope those considering it don't let critics on this forum make them shy away from it. Although I haven't done it in Switzerland, I did do it in California, and at least there all kinds of great people are on the websites (the best of which in my experience were match.com and the dating link on theonion.com, in case someone is wondering). Its a way to meet people you'd never cross paths with in real life. And it works for many. I know 4 married couples with kids who met on there, and I'm getting married next week to a wonderful man I met online.

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Nope. My personal experience was that I had a lot more success locating people in real life where I could experience the "vibes" that they gave off up front. As I said though, I am sure that the experience is different for men and women. I know a number of women who have had success with these sorts of sites, just don't know very many men who have.

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This thread reminds me of that lovely movie from the 1930s called

The shop around the corner.

May you find yours

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Update: Exchanged messages with two contacts but declined politely any further communication. They both sounded nice but weren't exactly what I was looking for.

Contact no. 3 is waiting for a message but I'm not sure what to write. He sounds a bit interesting but also has some baggage that I'm not so sure about.

By the way, one contact was in English and the other two in German. And I was the one who made the "first move" in all three contacts.

Even if this doesn't pan out (and I rather doubt it will), it's a great opportunity for improving my German skills.

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Well, I think that online dating is and can be used as a great tool to meet a bunch of new people, but one of the dangers is that we might not always look past the initial profile because what the person has stated there doesn't fit into our dream image of the partner we seek, but could be that you would remove someone who'd actually be great. So meeting up, talking a bit in neutral territory is often a lot better than a lengthy email or chat session, because no matter what, no bets are on, until you have had some face to face time.

My experience with it all have been everywhere in between great and tragic, but that's a tale for another time

But I hope you succeed

Ps. pictures and profiles are often no more than half truth's...

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Before signing off the website, I had two contacts expressing interest in friendship and adventure. I wrote back to one asking what he meant by "adventure". He wrote back (in German), "along the lines of being sexual".

At least he was honest.

I replied that I would be interested in the friendship part but am too prude for the adventure part and wished him well in his search.

Back to the drawing board.

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I quite like Dating Websites, I think they are great. My friend found his girlfriend on Friendscout24 or something. These websites do charge, but if you are smart enough you can insert your email somewhere in an intelligent way for it to be picked up by the filters.

But I prefer the free dating websites liek Facebook and linkedin, again if you are intelligent to use them to your advantage. The best feature about internet dating websites is that you can hit on dozens of girls in a day (try doing that in a bar or in real life!!!). So according to the law of averages, you always have a high probablity of striking a match(es).

The only downside is that you are hit with the realisation that the plain Jane girl next door, is not quite what she seems like!

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Why dont you give us your login and password so we can witness all this in real time, and perhaps help with some input too?