I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
photos on dating website are notorious for being out of date or 'deceptive' but the webcam is brutal.
What I dont understand is women like weirdos once they are in a relationship, then why not be open about it from the start?
Lot of Bankers and other high flying professionals are into "weirdo" stuff, so better not miss out on them, I'd say!
This site, this thread is going quite well in that direction
Nothing can prepare you or filter out, against a sufficiently talented weirdo, so just let it be. Try to talk over the phone and skype (no nude stuff ok) just to get a feel for the person so you guys feel a bit more comfortable when you meet up. If you dont really fancy him, then you can just say "Im looking for a husband and want to get married asap, as all my friends are married"
Anyway, how do you define a "weirdo" or a psychopath? We are all your reguler everyday folks.
Just go for the "exhibitionsists" they would not even ask you for your webcam
"Its complicated, I'll tell you later"
Have politely declined meeting two possible contacts.
One was a very nice gentleman who could only speak English (I'm looking for a bilingual German / English or German only partner) and the other man (German speaking) sent me a picture of himself and his two children which, although very touching, was just too much info for me at this time.
And, just to mention, all contacts who are looking for a sexual adventure are politely requested to look elsewhere.
I've asked a number of men to be friends but most don't seem to be interested and just ignore it. I get more feedback when sending a "heartbeat" than a "friendship" symbol.
The search goes on. Guess I'd like start with friendship and have it grow into something. Don't want to put the cart before the horse.
'Vibes' as mentioned are important, but you can't feel them from email/messages.
I did give a chance to lady few years back, even when she was something else than I expected. But there was mutual sympathy... and at the end, she changed my life so much, everything in positive direction.
The sad point - she dumped me 2 days ago, after 3.5 years. I am here in CH breaking through, building 'nest', while she's finishing her PHD studies back home. I guess the current separation was too much for her. Hell it was hard for me, and I am a man.
We made together 6 months of trekking and travelling through india & nepal. Experience that would break many working marriages (24/7 together for more than month-weird things start to happen, compromising etc). But even these kind of shared experiences weren't enough.
So everybody, get out and buy a flower for Your lady and tell how much You love her. Trust me, it's worth it