Well, you are not much good to her dead. I tried the puffed my chest out, smiling and primping in front of a couple of female friends just now they didn't bat an eyelid, so I guess it doesn't work coming from a woman.
Oh, most emphatically and indelibly, ,,yes!!! Both ways, or even, all ways.
When I select a friend, I tend to choose an attractive heart, an interesting soul. I could absolutely not care less whether it's a man or woman. As a result I don't feel there's a difference. My close friends are both male and female.
Men's ability to develop a close friendship with a particular woman is directly proportional to the latter's intellectual attractiveness and inversely proportional to her physical attractiveness. A handy rule of thumb for women when determining what type of relationship they wish to strike up. Make-up and décolleté or the encyclopaedia.
Strange ... I have several close female friends, and my wife has several close male friends ... as far as I know there's never been any 'tension'. Perhaps the fact I've only had two 'real' girlfriends in my life helps ... that and the fact that, growing up with two older sisters, I've always had females around who are neither sisters nor girlfriends ...
Perhaps growing up with a strong familial relationship with someone of the opposite sex makes a difference. So to all heterosexuals who have opposite sex, platonic, best friend relationships(Or vice versa, if you think such a relationship is highly improbably): Did you grow up with a strong attachment to a brother or sister?
Get your point, but what I was trying to say was, IF I have to be platonic friends with her, I'd rather die, as it would be just plain torture for me.
Moral of the story is: For a guy, in my opinion, its difficult NOT to have a fancy for a charming young lady.
I'm an only. I have no problems at all being close friends with a guy - some of my closest friends are male - without any sort of sexual tension at all. I just look at them as being like Ken dolls - sexless as far as I'm concerned. I simply either like a person's personality or I don't, it isn't a gender thing.
I don't have a problem being friends with Ken Doll guys, I get hooked by a mix of strong intuition, intelligence and testosterone. I think that men think of almost all women sexually, they just categorize them differently. Maybe I am just terribly out-of -date.
I've talked about that with male friends, both close ones and casual ones and most seem to be able to do the same as well - look at a woman as having a much genitalia as a barbie doll has when they're in the friend category.
I think it's more a case of you can't help who you find sexually attractive... and if you are friends with a good-looking girl then of course your body and instrinct will react to that now and then, even if only sub-consciously. It's just about self-control though, i've had some stunning friends, but in the end you just learn to surpress those sorts of thoughts and after a while when you get to know them then familiarity takes over and it becomes sisterly.
Very true!
Yes, I've heard about men and Real Dolls.
Had? You still do.
I like the way the initial question is posted as well "is it possible for men to have friends only relationships with women". An automatic assumption that the man will be the one to initiate any unfaithfulness. How about changing it to "Is it possible for women to be close friends with men without continually trying it on ?" to see if that gets the same murmuring nodding that men really are no more intelligent than their cavemen predecessors.
Women are more complicated. Some women have been raised to be submissive, to smile demurely, accept a man's authority and do their best to service their needs.
The there are these women:
http://www.wellnessmd.com/wtestosterone.htm
I think that it is all down to a mixture of hormones and patterns of child raising.
If you took the testosterone out of men and start injected it in women then I think that you will see a reversal of roles. Women must be aware that most guys have this thing , which probably includes your male best friend, even, at times, if you aren't normally their type.
This is getting ... a bit ... typically female-ish complicated hoppy. Why don't we leave it just down to simple down to earth terms eh?
"Women must be aware that..." evil men, only after sex etc etc.
And yet it is the woman who actively pursues the married man as shown by a recent study.. http://www.newscientist.com/article/...-are-best.html
Married men are tried and tested, maybe....
Guess it is assumed that if another woman has been able to stand the guy for at least some period of time, he can't be that bad. with single guys you never know..