Child hit by other child

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Am I the only one who thinks that this thread is nothing but hilarious? We have one toddler who hit another toddler (as toddlers do). And we have one overreacting parent who asked in the previous thread how to translate the sentence "hit my daughter again and I break your leg" into French. This same person is calling the little culprit an immigrant who hardly speaks the language?! This is clearly an attempt of writing a surrealist essay. Nobody can take something like this for real.

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Gosh, you are one of "those" parents...

My daughter got bitten @ krippe when she was about 1. I asked who the bier was (out of pure curiosity) and the krippe told me they had a policy of not telling as some parents overreact and cause a lot of havoc over what is normal kid behaviour and developmental steps. They explained to me how they deatly with it and it was fine.

I honestly did not get the parents over reacting bit but well... Now I know!

Did my heart break for my poor baby with a bitten arm? YES

Did my heart break thinking she was all confused and hurt? YES

But I respect that children are children and this is what they do, all of them in some form of other as it is about finding their place in the herd.

Pls do not confuse YOUR needs with your daughter. In these situations you can simply reassure her the behaviour was not acceptable.

If you feel the creche did not handle it well, you can also let them know.

I would personally FREAK if I knew a parent had gone in and spoke to my child without me. And I would complain about it loud and clear to management.

Maybe I missed it but what exactly did happen?

Side note: I have a 4 YO girl and a 20 MO boy. The boy just comes up and hits me. He does the same to his father and sister. Then looks curios to see what we do. We of course tell him off. My 4 YO is sometimes exasperated by him and has hit him. Is it ok? NO. Is it life? YES.

Your reaction is too much and trying to prevent any kind of sadness, hurt in our children is NOT healthy as they will not have the right skills to cope for life!

I do hope the fact that the majority is saying the same in one form or other will make you think!

K

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I'm shocked you haven't sued the child for emotional distress.

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Oh c'mon about the immigrant thing! Two years ago I was a fresh immigrant too, first a crazy mum, now I'm a racist crazy mum! Let it go. Taken advice on board, won't do it again.

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It never ceases to amaze me how people love to jump on the bashing bandwagon. Why don't you read my post before jumping in with the others before making incorrect claims of what I asked for /said

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Sapin, I really don't think you've done yourself any favours in this thread much like the last. I completely understand being upset and protective but to insinuate or assume that the child's father might beat his mother and that is why he behaves the way he does is just wrong.

Kids are kids and it's taken me a while to realise that. My daughter was getting bitten frequently at one point at daycare and when I posted on here asking for advice, I received a lot of support and wise words but I intentionally made sure I posted in a calm manner and tried to take much of the emotion out of my words.

Our daycare told us the culprit so the first thing I did was chat to the boy's mother. She was upset that her darling boy was biting and scratching my little one but happy that I discussed it with her. I asked her if it was ok to talk to the daycare about the situation and she was fine with that. He eventually grew out of it....however.....

Now the two of them are best friends but we still end up with one of them hurting the other. They are just too close sometimes. The last incident was mini-mimi and the young lad playing nicely together and then he turned round playing at being a tiger and my little one scratched him across the face being a lion!

Take a deep breath. The written word is often harsher than the spoken one so likely people are reading this differently than your meaning.

Good luck getting this resolved as I understand how upsetting these things are.

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I read what you wrote and I wasn't bashing but just expressing my honest admiration about your talents as a story teller. I think you should rename your thread. "Much ado about nothing" would be a quite appropriate tltle, idon't you think?

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I think that's a little unfair. It's not "nothing" when someone clobbers your child. It naturally provokes your emotions. I think Sapin just expressed it in a bad way, which is easily done. That or I am too naive and Sapin is an evil wicked child scaring monster who just loves a bit of drama. Who knows...this is the internet after all

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I think 2 threads of this today is enough... Its been done to death...

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Yeah, it is. It's nothing. Literally nothing.

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So is it also ok if I come and give you a walloping then*? Kids do need to be taught right from wrong you know.

I'm not saying you can stop it from happening but some kind of consequence has to be in place.

*disclaimer: i'm not literally threatening to do that

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So glad you have the time to come by and enlighten us with your insights. Many thanks to you.

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Talking with the parents of the child who hit your daugther is the best thing to do.

However, I would keep a very close eye on that boy and make sure he doesn't do it again.

Then, I would think about how I would like my daughter to fend for herself and I would help her to practice at home.

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Young children have troubles expressing their emotions - and even understanding them, for that matter - and hitting and biting can be a way to express a feeling. It must be discouraged, of course. But the people working in daycares know how to deal with those situations on a routine basis.

When he was younger my son got bitten several days in a row by another child at daycare. It was deep enough for me to see the whole jaw mark on my son's arm.

I raised the matter with the educators, and they kept a close eye on my son and this little girl for a few days. As this was happening during their daily playing interactions, they were the best placed to change the settings.

I don't see what it would have brought to speak to the parents or to the child herself. The child has to understand in context that biting isn't an answer, at that age their memory-span is short and they are unable to understand a scolding not happening when that bad action is done - much like a puppy actually!

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not to forget the OP claims to be a pacifist, but has no problem intimidating other toddlers and threatening to break their legs.

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Funny. It almost always seems to be between a boy and a girl.....surely they're too young to be programmed to such flirtations

Maybe there really is some truth in the saying that the boys pull your hair in the playground to get your attention

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She didn't actually say that to the kid though did she? I think you're just stirring the pot my friend.

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I think some of you has been very harsh on the OP. she expressed her concerns, went a bit over the top out of emotions but one should be able to read between the lines instead to attack her, tell nasty comments, make fun of her here and on the other side, calling her names, etc.

Laughing at the OP, turning her into ridiculous doesn't help her but makes YOU look like an childish jerk.

Why not trying to be a bit more sensible to someone's stress and give opinions, feedback and tips in an adult well constructed manner?

How difficult is that?

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Tsk tsk tsk Nil. Are you honestly saying you expect adults to be playing in EF's playground?

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No. It isn't OK if you gave me a walloping. For one thing you're an adult and it would probably hurt a lot more or cause serious damage. But if you did, I'd talk to you or avoid you in future or wallop you back, depending on the situation. And I'm a pretty good judge of situation because I've been dealing with this sort of thing myself since I was a toddler.

I'm not advocating young children have a capacity to deal with all situations themselves but as near as I can tell a child was hit once. Not followed around day after day being beaten relentlessly, given bruises and scars but hit once. So yes, I'm sticking with my story.