Hang in there.
i wish you good luck with your situation.
I am not a lawyer at all, but i can offer you some very good advice.....
Listen very closely to whatever Richard and litespeed tell you.
Thats the advice. I have been on this forum for awhile now and their advice never ceases to impress me.
Given what I read so far, I would suggest that you are maybe better off with a good lawyer than trying to settle anything personally with your wife. To be honest, I have a feeling that an expensive lawyer will get you a lot more than a cheap lawyer, or especially none at all... i have the feeling that if you try to negotiate with your wife you will come off very very much second best.
so when richard said he can recommend you a competent lawyer, you can rest very much assured that he is more than competent... i would suggest you use him even if you need to travel to see him.
thats just my two cents of advice. good luck, and let us know how this business works out.
krlock3
i would like to thank all of you for your advice and support over the past day. i REALLY appreciate it. it's nice to meet so many cool people on a public forum and get thoughtful answers/responses to an issue that is..., well, depressing.
so thanks! you people rock and if i can ever repay in kind, i will.
i would like to shout out a very sincere thank you to richard who took it upon himself to provide me with some very sound, articulate and eye-opening advice about 'getting a divorce' in switzerland. this guy is indeed a person everyone would like to have as a friend... kudos
i've calmed down a bit since yesterday. i will try (again) to talk with my wife and see if we can't try to resolve this issue in as friendly and civilized manner as possible.
have a good evening and enjoy each other's company
I have no advice other than to wish you good luck with everything and do whatever is in your power to get what you deserve for 22 years of loyal marriage.
Please keep us posted on progress.
If you want to translate some document, you can try the babelfish program...
http://fr.babelfish.yahoo.com/?fr=fp-em
being french canadian, I use it a lot!
this one is better for english people
i've gotten some help translating the document and it's not looking very good - i appreciate the tip, but you have to be careful using a computer translation: it might tell you, 'you've won the lottery...' when in fact, you just sold the farm!
i'm off to canada next week for a couple of weeks - gonna spend some time with family and friends and chill out for awhile!
be good, happy, healthy and wise!
I went though a divorce about 8 months ago . ( nasty business ) Hang in there . First of all the other advice is super . If you do reach a point when you can be civil with each other , I would recommend going to a mediator . He isnt there for anyones interests, just that you can divorce in a fair and civil manner . Regardless you should still take the final papers to a lawyer to make sure their ok . I did my divorce this way and it worked out well . I also had problems in comunicating with my spouse ( when I said I wanted a divorce my spouse tried 5 times to get me to sign papers that he had made . Of course I didnt sign them ! Anyway I hope you will concider my sugestion ;it will save you and your wife money that you will need for a new start .
Cheers ,
Mamacass