When I hit 65, I decided to look up old friends I had lost touch with. (In the US, it’s easy…too easy…the public databases know my every address since the '70s!! Anyone who has ever had a footprint in the US is traceable.) My childhood BF? Dead. My first boyfriend? Dead. My highschool artist chum? Dead. My uni (England) boyfriend who became a well-known investigative journalist? Dead. My sister’s uni (Dutch) boyfriend? Dead. My long-ex-husband? Dead. It’s a lot.
The moral of the story: don’t date bossybaby!
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I disagree, do date as much as your heart desires.
But don’t look them up once you’ve moved on.
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Ummm…@curley, there was no comma in Phil’s comment.
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This got me to thinking. I dated 4 guys in uni/grad school #1. of those 3 are dead. No idea what happened to them.
I worked with 2 guys who had AIDS, one died in 1990, at the beginning, and one is still alive 39 years later. Kind of amazing.
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010, I met a lot of women (and some men) online also with breast cancer. It was really helpful, very supportive. And there was an English language cancer support group in Basel. It was very active till about 2019, when one of the principals died. About 4 of us still meet for lunch.
But so many people that I knew died of metastatic breast cancer. It‘s a loss and a terrible disease. I have Facebook friends now who are in the US, some are having disease progression and I hope they‘ll still have access to decent care. Most of them are in their 40s and 50s.
I guess you think about this crap as you age.
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