they just have to wait their turn. and women need to remember to take their turn instead of missing the boat in their 30s.
imo, this is simply the fallout from women becoming more successful in the workplace. great for equality, but bad for their marriage prospects:
- they usually expect men to be the bread-winner, so the better career the woman has, the more she cuts down her potential dating pool
- more time spent working long hours = less time meeting potential husband
- 20s are the prime attractiveness period (see chart below) don't squander it
- when women have problems finding men (or find it more difficult than in their 20s), they sometimes get down, become negative and project bad vibes which sabotage their future efforts
statistically - if you are a woman in your 30s, you are below average in attractiveness. and also from a statistical point of view, if you're a woman, you're attractiveness peaks at 21 - it's all downhill thereon-after!
if you're a woman reading this and thinking "pah!" then beware, women also over-estimate how attractive they actually are.
but i'm a firm believer in that there is someone for everyone. so good luck!
Bah! What on earth does a older guy want with a 20-odd year old chick, except for plowing that pelvis like the white man's pile driver, in my opinion for a commit-o-phobe guy like me, the best option is a woman who is back on the market for the second or third time, a Occasion if you want, generally she knows what she wants, is fun to be with, been there and done that and with the "chip" no longer on her shoulder any deeper relationship that develops may well be the love of your life, that is the theory, however Slammer tends to get Hindenburg relationships, in that they go down hard in flames.
I am sorry if some women finds beer belly and bald patches attractive.... do not get your ego high.. they are just being nice to you in the front and for sure laughing in your back.
You have NO idea what happens within each marriage.
And where the heck did you get the idea that men can easily balance fatherhood and career? Oh, sorry. I forgot. Your wife stays at home, cooks, cleans, washes clothes, takes care of the children and then says Ja and Amen to you as soon as you arrive home. And that's your definition of balancing fatherhood and career.
I believe there are some very good marriages. I also know there are many very non-functioning marriages. And those non-functioning marriages can put a strain on any person as much as being single.
If your marriage is working, be grateful. It takes a lot of love, communication, work, compromise and some sacrifice to make it work but it's definitely worth it in the end. Unfortunately, almost 50% of marriages fail. And that, my friend, can be more soul tearing, heart breaking and mind boggling than losing someone to a death.
Being in a relationship with a strong, independent woman is difficult and hard work? I'm inclined to say BS. Being in any relationship requires a lot of hard work on the part of both parties in order for it to be successful. And what exactly does it mean in today's world to "be a woman and experience what it is like to have a man really treat you like a woman."
it's a pet topic of mine. i've done extensive research into this (and believe it or not, have been a dating consultant in the past!). i even started writing a self-help book for women dating in their 30s, but i don't think i'll ever have time to finish that project...
I'm not suggesting anything, do whatever makes you happy, no need to justify it to me or anyone. I'm not putting a moral judgement on people's life decisions as I certainly don't have a very conventional approach to many things in life either, and didn't care much about how others viewed them.
What I'm saying is that women in their thirties who limit themselves in their choice of men in ways that men don't (equal or superior age, wealth, education, size, attractiveness etc.) they reduce their own dating pool to a size where only the most attractive women (not just physically) will succeed and we see that being played out before our eyes. Call it whatever you want, but remember that all you do is shoot the messenger.
Every single guy I know (mostly early to mid thirties) confirm what's described in the article: they suddenly have their pick of women, almost without any effort on their part.
Do not finish that book... it would not sell at all. And its no wonder that your career as dating consultant crashed. Did your customer threaten to kill you after following your advice.
hahaha--great article! I can happily say I check off on almost all of those points---and the proof is in the pudding! I don't date much (if at all), and only have had a couple partners, but those relationships have lasted extremely long term. So the article checks out for finding a working long term relationship! (or just do the obvious and avoid simplistic psychos! -Don't stick your d*ck in crazy!)