I dont know what kind of family you had.
But when your boss tells you, that she doesnt care about you food, cause you can go shopping yourself since you've got money (pocket money)??
'Cant she afford to buy herself youghurts?? She has money'
Thats not the way it works!
Fyi- we moved at the end of august, you have 10 days to officially change your address otherwise you get fined. This includes insurance and permits, therefore we filled out and signed the relevant forms, gave her the 50chf so she could change her L permit to our new address.
When the L permit with the new address arrived I would have to send a copy to both my home insurance so she is covered in case of accident and her health insurance.
I waited 4 weeks for the permit, I then called the stadthaus and was informed she wasn't registered to our place and another permit had been issued.
That's why I wrote a thread asking if an employee had to be registered at their place of work as I was reluctant to have someone in the house that is not insured.
An employee shouldn't do that to an employer.
It was at that time when I was approached by an aquaintance of hers who told me that she had been 'taking things from the house'
Rather than confront her, I decided to let things go. I just mentioned how certain things seem to finish quickly.
Then she handed in her notice the next day and thought that would be the end of it.
Not that I should have to justify my actions, is that explanation good enough ?
The other thing I find too much is that you are bringing a lawyer into this. What on earth for???? The girl doesn't want to work for you anymore. Deal with it. Find someone else. If she is so bad you need to "warn the new family" why on earth are you bring a lawyer into this?
You were perfectly happy to have her take care of your kids until the time she quit. That's why this all sounds like sour grapes.
Instead of wasting your money on a lawyer, pay the girl what you owe her & MOVE ON!
Hope you find someone soon.
Even though it seems like you weren't entirely happy with her performance working for your family, you were happy to keep her on until the end of her contract. Furthermore, I don't believe you are qualified to judge whether or not she would be "hopeless" looking after newborns when she was not looking after any young babies in your own home (if I understand correctly) and you yourself did acknowledge that she is good with toddlers and older children?
Your claim of altruistic intentions doesn't ring true to me and I haven't the foggiest why you would waste so much time and energy on such an issue (and getting lawyers involved ).
Apart from the troublesome fact that you heard these claims from a third party, I'm having difficulty understanding what she would be doing with all the stolen "merchandise". I mean is she selling them on ebay or from the back of some clandestine warehouse!!! Fair enough about the toiletries, but washing powder and food?? Perhaps she was admitting that she was taking these things behind your back because she felt you were not providing for her needs (which I am not saying is the case), which I guess could still technically be called stealing??
I'm not saying she wasn't a bad apple - there's plenty of them on both sides but as others have said, in that case why not cut your losses. At the end of the day she's a young 22 year old girl with plenty to learn. Surely it would make your life (and the rest of your family's) so much easier to just move on, find a replacement asap and not give it a second thought.
Why are you choosing to put yourself through this stress and hassle if it is not because of sour grapes, or else, perhaps your judgment has been a bit skewed because of how hurt you feel over how you've been treated. We're all guilty of that sometimes, but in my experience, harboring resentment and ill feeling is toxic and usually does you far more damage to you than the person that has "wronged" you.
My advice would be to LET IT GO, LET IT GO, LET IT GO. Count your blessings, appreciate your beautiful family and put it all down to experience.
and here's a few tips of how to do same: