OH's commute is currently 30-45 minutes depending on traffic.
I need to move somewhere with more land, isolated from neighbors. But the only places I've seen are much father out, at least a 1.5 to 2 hour commute. Given that OH already works a 12-15 hour day, this is too much to ask of him.
So instead we are opting for the 7000+ km commute. I'm heading back to the US, OH is staying here. We've decided that the commuter marriage thing will be easier than a grueling daily commute.
Arrgh, that is tough. Why not move to a bigger place with land with the 1.5 commute - and he could find a studio in town for when he has to work late. Then you could have all your week-ends and hols together? Moving right across the pond is just so drastic.
Wish you the very very best of luck whatever you decide. How can you be sure that you can't possibly have bad and grumpy neighbours in the US though? There are sad, nasty, grumpy people everywhere no?
If I have to move to get away from our current neighbors, I might as well go back to the US where the chance of running into the same kind of neighbor problem is nil.
And there are eldercare concerns - the parents and in-laws need more help than I am able to provide from across the pond.
Two birds, one stone and all that.
We'll retire to the US anyway, so it makes sense to purchase a home there now, when prices are still pretty low - rather than buying at the top of the bubble here.
My husband takes 1h15m door to door from Lausanne to Neuchatel by metro + train. I sort of imposed this commute on him when choosing whether to settle down in Lausanne or Neuchâtel because I intend to look for a job in Lausanne or Genève.
Still he says he can easily live with it so far and he actually prefers it that way then by car (1h drive). He can use his time on the train to reply to emails or make phone calls, so actually that adds up to his job time...
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You don't have to care what your neighbors think there...unless you break a law, there really isn't much to worry about. A man's home is his castle and can do as he pleases, for the most part, at least Plus, you can likely find a place with enough land to not worry about that if you need/want
Mine is less than 30 mins by car, or 1.5 hours by bicycle/metro... Depending on the weather and the schedule at work I pick one or the other, but sadly most of the time is by car