Can we afford to have children on one salary in Switzerland?

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I have just had to take a 10 minute timeout here, a reply after the first reading would have been.. weeel a bad thing!

But just what the hell are you trying to flaunt in out faces?

That hubby is a good meal ticket and that you are like just soo bored and fu**ed off with your measly existence that you need a hobby?

Are your children going to be the result of having the ready cash or are you more afraid that you can not survive on 126 Kilo Chuffs?

Very sorry for the explosion y 'all but issues like these make me go thermonuclear.

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Cashboy, i don't entirely disagree with you. In fact, you make some good points.

The thing is that, despite all those points, i still want a family.

I can't explain it, i can't rationalise it, i just want it.

Simple.

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Yes you can afford to have kids if you both are willing to sacrafice some lifestyle changes and not just in terms of financial changes-- but time, commitment and prioritizing..........

Better find out now whether or not kids are in his future plans or not. He is now in his late thirties. If he hasn't had the "feeling that he wants them" , sorry, don't think he really wants them then.

Have many girlfriends now in their late thirties who are still holding out and waiting for their significant others for the "go-ahead" to start making them and every year they get a little more bitter for not having them.

You want a family... then your feelings are validated. Us women have an "expiry date" when it comes to having biological kids safely and at 34 years old, -- if you are open to adoption later on, that's a different story.

Sit down with him and talk and find out whether or not they are in his plans at all.

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Ah, I've always been flexible....if it happens, cool, if not, c'est la vie. If I had the social life I "needed" 5-6-7-8-9-10 years ago, I might have been like him......now I live under a bridge and have no social life, kids don't impact me as much as I might have expected.

You can have a lot of fun with kids (I hope!).

How many of your friends in your immediate social circle have kids?

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I would like to officially double thank you for this post.

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If your husband is not ready, then don't push him because this will be in the back of his head for the rest of your relationship with him and thrown against you correctly (or incorrectly).

He is either scared or/and just doesn't like the idea of the committments of a child.

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Slammer, firstly, take a deep breath.

Secondly, wise of you to make assumptions first without asking any questions.

Thirdly, if you had bothered to clarify the issues without going....errrrr.....'thermonuclear'....you would realise you are wrong on all the above.

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Cashboy, put yourself into her shoes too.

Tick tick tick tick tick tick tick.

Why should kimba1 tippy-toe around the subject when her window of opportunity is waning?

She wants kids (clearly) and this will have to happen sooner rather than later. If he does not want kids and she does, they have an issue that needs to be resolved soon.

**** his feelings. What about her feelings?

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Oh, come on, not all men are the same. Judging by what you said I would think that you are either very young or very bitter. Hopefully it's the former

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I think you've got the wrong end of the stick -- possibly the wrong stick altogether.

The OP is 34. As already mentioned, there's a biological clock winding down. Her partner is the one stating that his income is insufficient -- not the OP. She's flaunting nothing but a natural desire to breed.

Step back, calm down, and see if you can revert from thermonuclear to traditional heavy artillery.

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we're all "sex for fun" types, according to Cashboy

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Cashboy, guru of the typical man's mind, why can't men just be honest about their feelings?

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Yes we are, still doesn't mean we don't want kids though.

I was the one who ready for kids before my wife... (Although she is now pushing for #4 )

LOL - 'cos you wouldn't like what you heard

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...see, kids are trouble even before they are here!!!

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Off the subject and on to manners.

I was educated to say: "I would like..................please" and if I used the I WANT, I would get a slap accross the back of my head and often sent to my bedroom.

This is the whole problem with society today; Want Want Want .

I am in an angry mood today because I am going to Switzerland tomorrow basically to see a tenent who is giving my mother hassle and WANTING (a garage at no extra rent, a new cooker, a new fridge, this and that etc.) after only being a tenent in my building for 6 months.

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That's never stopped us.

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I always am except when you were younger and had to tell the girl you loved her to get her to go to bed with you.

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Oh dear Cashboy. Sorry to get on your bad side too.

God forbid someone should ever 'want' something. I mean, that really IS the whole problem with society today, isn't it?

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You had to lie to get women to have sex with you?

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Let us get back to the topic. at 125000, you should have no problem with your finances for the first 3 years. After that it is a choice you need to make regarding his/her schooling. Going to local school you would do fine but if you want to send him to the private or international schools, just be aware that it costs around 2200 CHF per month not including day care.

Just my 2 cents