Hi,
You seem to be doing something very similar to what I have just done / just finishing up!
I have been in switzerland since the beginning of August and was originally looking at both Horgen/ Lucerne and Zug. Also I was previously doing 1 - 1.5 hour commute each day! My wife and child will be joining me in a week (finally) to settle in our flat!
Before arriving I had my heart on Horgen but upon arrival I had more chance to go around all locations before chosing where to live. My wife has family in Horgen hence why we initially wanted to stay there but when i looked around it didnt seem to have as much of an atmosphere as I had been hoping for! Don't get me wrong I'm not a party animal or anything but It was very quiet! But the benefits ar ethat its mid way between Zug and Zurich so you have easy access to both and have a direct train to the airport as well if need be! Beautiful views over the lake.
Lucerne is beautiful but you would need ot check about the commute! I think this commute is slightly more then to horgen based on the one train journey ive taken to lucerne! But i dont think it would be noticable to your hubby!I think you can tell I don't know as much about Lucerne as I do Horgen!
www.sbb.ch is a very good website to bookmark! This allows you to put in your complete journey not just station to station to give you an idea about commute time and also has an icon for how busy they expect the train to be!
I'm not sure of the taxation difference but i think www.comparis.ch should be able to help! You can select your canton etc and it will tell you how much tax to expect to pay!
Our personal choices have resulted us getting a beautiful flat in Cham (7 minutes from Zug on the train) in non of the places we originally chose to look at. The flat cost somewhat more then Lucerne and Horgen (about 500 more then I originally wanted to spend per month) but is worth it! Not sure of how it is where you currently are but I have come from London and the life style shift has been amazing so come the summer instead of the train I will be cycling into work along the Lake Zug! I can't wait!
Things to take note of:
1) Housing is Very difficult to get here! I was rejected from 2 apartments and took the whole 2 months to find it There is a huge demand for each apartment here
2) From my understanding tenants can move out at 3 main points during the year. One was today (1st October) the next I believe is March (please correct me if im wrong) so you may not have a massive selection if you are arriving in Jan!But I haven't experienced this first hand just from what I have been told!
3) Are the company your husband workgin for providing temporary accommodation while you find your apartment? Will they provide a relocation company as well?
4) You can search for apartments on www.comparis.ch as well to get an idea about prices and size etc.
5. Language - Not speaking German myself I was a bit nervous about coming here but everyone is very polite and will try their hardest to accomodate!
Other places to look:
Cham
Baar
Zug
Personally the time saved on the commute now is a god send with a 4 month year old baby!
Best of luck
Ed