Dating in Switzerland: who initiates?

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you COULD compliment him on the size of his monitor , and perhaps his thumbs.

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p.s... I had no idea a co-worker was interested in me, until I heard a rumour from a friend that she told his g.f. she was going to screw me.

( three years later she did just that ... took the car, got the condo )

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Yeah, something like "I love a man with 27 inches and perfect vertical hold..."

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Just jump his bones, he'll get the message.

Problem with this is that, since he's a native, you need to make an appointment in advance (3 months in advance if you're unlucky ).

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Fear and roll playing

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Ah, gender roles are bad unless they push you out of your comfort zone.

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It may sound old fashioned but i say a woman should never ask a guy out- if she wants it to last. If it is just a date -or something less serious- you are looking for, then by all means men love attention as much as women do (although they will deny that fully).

BUT if you are truly interested in learning more about this person and think it has a chance for romance then wait for him to ask you out. That said, flirting never hurts, and no need to be too subtle. Be careful though, there is a fine line between flirting and what some others have suggested!

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

P.S. i have been here 2 years now and have been asked out by Swiss men. Its not every weekend, or as forward as in the US or UK, but it does happen!

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do the other two do a rather unsubtle "oh, we forgot we need to do that thing " and then get up and leave the two alone?

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Yes. Let him make the first move. If he's that interested, he will...

You also have to ask yourself, if you do it, would you be able to take being rejected if that was the case?

Find out what his hobbies and interests are. See if there is common ground anywhere. If there is, initiate casual conversations around this/these and see where that goes.

Don't fake it. For example, in pretending to like something he does. Too much wasted energy in doing that and sooner or later the pretence will become obvious.

Don't force it. Just be natural and yourself. If what you say by "we have been approaching for weeks" means there's some chemistry between the two of you, then that's a good sign.

Whatever course of action you decide on, good luck!

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Dear English Forum,

I am in bed with a Swiss woman. Can somebody tell me what to do next?

I know I've got this thing which I have got to put somewhere, but I don't know where and I don't know what to do after that.

Can anybody halp?

Thank you.

PS I'm turning blue and there is no air in my lungs. Please advise.

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hahahaha! you made my day PaddyG !!!

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Umm, how did your wife get the passport so quickly? I mean I know she is super-fast on the uptake but that's very unusual!

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Laugh and point. Or is that what she's supposed to do? Or not do? Ah, hell. Just get up and do an impromptu interpretive dance to explain your feelings. If she's any kind of a woman at all, she'll completely get what you're trying to say. Remember, you have to do it naked. Bonus points for doing "The Helicopter".

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If he's not interested, isn't that rejection as well? Who dares, wins.

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..ever heard of 21st century?

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OP.

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About "I am in bed with a Swiss woman. Can somebody tell me what to do next?"

Remove your shoes.

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firstly, can you get to the door without her catching you?

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I made the first move with a Swiss man. We've been married almost 10 years now.

It doesn't matter if you are male or female - if you don't make that move you'll probably regret it for a long time afterwards.

Be honest, take it slowly then if it doesn't work out it wasn't meant to be.

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Well well. Who wears the red shoes in your family?