You are returning in December to this same man? Well, maybe it wasn`t just a "holiday romance" and he is still the same person you believe he is. I hope so, for you. Just don`t be too disappointed if you don`t find him again.
From my experiences, yours is not uncommon. I find the Swiss people to be very traditional in gender roles and hence, many Swiss men are respectable, quiet, serious, strong hard workers who put their women on a protective pedestal--I think this is the perfect man for many women around the world. The Swiss-women I find are also traditional, they expect the men to work hard to impress and peacock over all the other competing suitors in more of an old fashioned gender role style. --this is great for some couples as well. But there is a trend of swiss males going abroad (commonly to South America) to find and successfully partner with their dream women. For me, I definitely prefer the more liberated non-swiss women (and on a side note, I find most Swiss men rather boring for colleges). This is NOT absolute and obviously not everyone is like this, but I would wager to say the average of people like this is higher than that of other 1st world countries.
True love takes time. And people often act differently early on in relationships and then begin to show their "true colors" as the relationship progresses. This is what happened with my Swiss husband. I do love him, but he's very different now from how he was when we first met (and that was only 4 years ago). He is now... well, let's just say that he is now much more "typical Swiss."
yes i agree!! oh for sure! i've been so used to getting involved with complete f**kwits, when i met him i thought it was an act because i wasn't used to being treated with such a high level of respect, chivalry at its finest. and a few others i met (swiss/german) they seemed to be exactly the same, really reserved and i LOVE how family orientated such young people are there, it's not really like that in australia, i was staying with him and his mum, but here in australia if you go on a date, you'd be lucky to ever meet the parents unless it was completely serious.
Hope it all works for you x
I am not sure if I would be a little scared if someone followed me back to my home country after meeting in a club. But good luck to you
As for the boring tag? It appears you have not slept with him yet perhaps?
I am now about to be 43, I am American (I think Carrie is also?), my husband is Swiss.
This woman on a pedestal thing is great at first, especially coming from someplace where this isn't necessarily common anymore. It gets wearing though, after a while.
My first piece of advice is to enjoy the "vacation" times together, but keep in mind this vital bit: Do not let the "Don't worry your pretty little head" thing go too far or too long, it is (very) hard to climb back out of, particularly as "he" won't be the only one with that attitude.
of course some caution is warranted, but she's clearly not a teenager.
Vanessa - I'm happy for you and hope it all turns out for the best.
Just hope it lasts as it's a long way to visit everytime!
Head on over to the Introductions thread and let us know more about you. There is also an Aussie event coming up that you might want to check out.