Kids' crying and neighbour problem

We live in a family house. Our neighbour downstairs, is a teacher, forty-year old, and childless. Since our daughter was born, this woman has shown hostility all the time. She said she's the type of people normally with very light sleep and could not stand children crying. So long as my daughter cries, later also when she plays on the floor, this woman warns us by hitting the heating at night, hitting the floor or playing loud music duing daytime, including at noon. Her apartment belongs to her relatives, while ours belongs to another person. We have done a lot for this neighbor to lower any sound is there's any, but she's more and more aggressive, and our daughter is often frightened. We just decided to move out. But before we move, anyone knows any good way to punish such a freak? Thank you in advance.

..punish for wanting some peace and quiet?

What about another baby? :-)

Raise the issue your landlord or Hauswart. A child crying or playing is considered to be "normal" use your apartment. However, your neighbour deliberately banging on the radiator or playing loud music at night is not.

It sounds to me that your neighbour is frustrated at not being able to have a child herself - for whatever reason.

Rgds,

Nick

..I agree

..now that to me doesn't make sense. Couldn't it just be that the neighbor would like some peace and quiet?

There seems to be a general phobia towards noise in this country or there is some issue with the insulation of buildings from the 70s. My own experience is such that I watch TV with headphones and have to keep reminding guests to keep it down. I have kept it up for more than a year hoping to earn brownie points with my neighbors. As I am expecting a child, I figured the only solution was to move into a house.

I can sympathize with your desire for revenge.

If you have a picture of her, put a "lonely hearts" ad of her up...I think we all know what this woman needs!!! (blush)

I don't know where that came from- most unlike me!

You can always reccommend potential tenants to the agent that visit that seem loud or the party type.

ask your child to make a drawing representing your building and the neighbors. For revenge you can "help" your child make your annoying neighbor be the only one looking like a witch with dark colors and the other neighbors with colorful and happy smiles. Put the drawing in all mailboxes as a thank you before leaving. when she realizes how she is perceived by a child, that will hurt especially when other neighbors will have a bad look at her

sometimes i'm surprised by my devilish ideas....

That would explain her dislike of children, at least...

"Living well is the best revenge."

Move out, put the past behind you - and go on to live your lives as you wish, enjoy these precious times with your child, be happy.

Life's too short, and all that.

Thats soooo smart!! OP do it!!

(with no hint of sarcasm )

moving out and into a new happy home and forgetting she was ever a part of your life is the best revenge possible. and it's good karma.

Yeah, I wouldn't bother trying to make some sad person's life even worse..n'est-ce pas?

And make sure you don't have another teacher waiting there for you in the new apartment too

If the neighbor is playing music loud enough to be heard during the daytime and banging the floor then you should go down and talk to her. This is inappropriate behaviour. Explain to her that making the baby more uncomfortable will only make it more likely to be upset and cry during the nighttime hours. Unless, your child is an elephant and jumping up and down on your neighbors ceiling? I have the same problem with my upstairs neighbor and only bang back when they sound like they are about to come through the ceiling.

Another option is, every time she bangs during the day, I would immediately go down and ask if you can hear what it is that she finds so objectionable. You may find that there are certain frequencies that are coming through. For example, my wife and my daughter don't wear healed shoes or boots unless they are just getting in or leaving the apartment. Because, they are so bloody loud! Sounds like someone is walking on you head downstairs.

Fortunately, I had very nice downstairs neighbors when we were discovering all of this.

Good Luck,

Brian.

I find the attitude of your neighbor completely unacceptable and deprived of humanity if she's showing aggressivity to the point that frightened your daughter. Unlike many people, i think she deserves a lesson so that she also get's another point of view. Very often this type of people display intolerance and would like to have the world going around their wishes.

Well, I think people should put themselves into the neighbors shoes...(and stop judging her). She has a light sleep and the kid keeps crying at night and waking her up...you would get pissed off as well. There was this older lady who used to live below me..and she couldn't hear right....and she used to watch her favourite tv program late at night, which woke me up in my sleep. It got to the point where I couldn't fall asleep anymore and I got very upset. Needless to say, I took all the necessary steps...(and the woman doesn't live there anymore)....but seriously, I want peace and quite at night....and wouldn't want to hear kids crying either.

Fully understand the problem. But the first step is to talk to your neighbour, identify/explain problem and try to find a solution that works for everyone (i.e infrared wireless headphones). What I don't like is displaying aggressivity without trying first to find a compromise.

PS: what do you mean by "i took all the necessary steps....woman does not live there anymore ???

Um, not wanting to hear someone else's kid scream and make irritating noises does not mean that the person is frustrated at not having a child herself!

In that case she should move to somewhere that is more condusive to her lifestyle/sleep patterns. We had the very same argument with neighbours years ago and they ended up moving out .

To the OP, stay where you, make the bitc h move.