If he is Swiss, he probably will. But then the point is that u will never know unless you give it a try. Who knows, he might even be thinking the same about you but is inwardly apprehensive! Ultimately its upto you whether you wanna just wait for him to approach you and if ur ok if he never does.
I would say (just my 2 cents) start a conversation about his boat (he obviously loves it) and then of course I dont have to tell u how to smuggle out rest of the information.... ur a girl, u can think of umpteen different ways!
Wow this is a popular thread with the girls for a thread that was only started today! I havn't been here long but I've met quite a few people, just going up and striking a conversation either by myself or with a friend. Or they have done the same to us. Most have been friendly, and most of them havn't been swiss come to think of it, but thats what i'm loving about Zurich, there seem to be people from all over the world here! And english really is the universal language here. The Australian accent doesn't hurt either i've noticed... lol If the action isn't coming to you, take the action to them! I never mind people coming up and starting a conversation but maybe thats part of being aussie. Its more fun meeting new people when you go out! Even if you never see them again or you take it further, it makes the day/night more interesting. Just read their body language, if they are interested in talking you'll be able to feel/see it. If they arn't, strike up a conversation with someone else. Just go out, be friendly and have a good time and you'll always meet someone.
My experience with Swiss women (and extends to Swiss men) is that they are all ears when it comes to learning everything about you, your life history, family, love life, chidlhood.....etc. etc....fascinating, tell me more....but when it comes to reciprocating with some personal details....nothing. Silence. One sided conversation. How many times I have had to hold a conversation all by myself, entertaining the Swiss with my best jokes and entertaining experiences...as soon as I stopped talking the laughter stopped. No one stepped up to the plate to keep the conversation going. Is it just me?
Oh, and the cigarettes...god, don't get me started on that one.
There seems to be a lot of misinformation about Swiss Men, Swiss Women, and interacting with said natives. So I thought I'd outline the necessary formalities:
If you want to date a Swiss person, you must first go to your Gemeinde within seven (7) days of meeting your prospective native, and apply for a permit. As you will only at first be allowed to go out with this native (no serious intimacy), you'll need to apply for a going-out permit (Ausgangsbewilligung) or A-Permit. You'll need to have your native sign the application before submitting it to the Gemeinde. It will be processed at a Gemeinde level and may take between 2-7 days to be approved. The permit is valid for 1 month. It may be extended for a further 1 month in exceptional circumstances.
But not so fast. Within this 1 month you and your Swiss Miss / Mister must determine if you desire to sleep together. If so, you must apply for a sexual intercourse permit (Geschlechtsverkehrsbewilligung), or X-Permit. For this you must apply to the Kantonal Geschlechtsverkehrsamt in person, along with your prospective swiss mate. Here is where it becomes tricky..
If you're EU, then its pretty much a formality, requiring only a passport photo and a credit certificate. It should be issued within 14 days.
If you are non-EU, then your partner may be required to prove that: He/She has dated numerous Swiss/EU nationals and found them to be dead lays Has made sufficient efforts to attract Swiss/Eu-Nationals who aren't dead lays, but without success, Has made sufficient advertisements and web site profiles outlining that he or she would like a good f**k with a Swiss/EU-Person; That you are indeed the only likely person qualified to perform like a "Rabbit on Crack in the Sack. " Once this proof is provided (which may require anatomically specific photos/videos), it may take up to 2 months for your non-EU X-Permit to be issued. A non-EU X-Permit is only valid for 48 hours in the first instance, as your new Swiss bedmate will be required to verify your exceptional bedroom skills. After that, the permit must be renewed every 6 months. But be careful. If the authorities have reason to believe the application is fraudulent (ie. You were never going to be anything other than just another dead lay), you will be black-listed federally, without right to appeal. If you are caught in performing the relevant acts without the necessary permit, you may fined, deported, or forced to stand front row at a DJ Bobo concerts (how did you think he still gets audiences?).
On the serious side, the "rules of the game" are no different here than it is in any other part of the western world. Boy meets girl...girl meets boy...it either works or it don't work. And if you don't know the rules by now...god help you.
Yesterday we watched with my spouse (non-Swiss ) "The Proposal" and it seems like in other western countries the laws are similar to Switzerland according to the above... I dont know about performing like "Rabbit on Crack in the Sack" prerequisite though
There is no dating scene here! But then I'm a native Swiss, how would I know ?
I think your best shot is going out to bars, positioning yourself near a group of desirable women and striking up a conversation at a suitable moment.
But if I wanted a(nother) girlfriend I'd have no idea where to look.
If you're really desperate and in Zürich try Nelson & Lady Hamiltons, not the most sophisticated crowd but then you're desperate... only from hearsay mind you, I am a man of taste.
I actually got kissed by some random girl on the way back from the bathroom at another club this weekend, was way too drunk & flabbergasted at this to respond... at which point I realized I should probably go home before I get raped. Just to point out that Swiss girls can be rather wild too.
If this guy is to be found at that seedy sounding bar, stay well clear AND there is a huge difference to wanting to find someone nice than being desparate!!! Be honest, be open, be brutal and be choosy... I'm still practicing...
hey I'm wondering if this thread has now gone from being female helpline/chitchat to now being a male controlled thread.. hey it started off so nicely.. start your own thread up and then we can compare notes
There must be TONS of single english-speaking folks in Zurich, whoever could organise a monthly big singles night would likely be rather successful. I'd be up for one.
.. and seeing that the Swiss just LURVE to speak English, it might also be a place to meet the natives... Just don't to brash, they won't bite and females, don't drink pints.. I fear a bashing from some "drink me under the tablers" here.. And go easy on the makeup, no need for extra layers.. It has been said that guys prefer when there is no shock the following morning when said war-paint has been removed..
Hey in fact I think some tips from the guys might be good.
profession
height
hair colour
hair length
smoker??
sporty
activities
fav. food
baggage?? (for the foreigners, let me clear that one.. ex-wives, kids.. etc)
se*ual preference / tastes (maybe not a subject for the first 24 hrs I suppose though)
description of self...
how would others describe self??
Ethnicity
Religion (if they say within 24 hrs that they will pray for you, get out quick) (if they couldn't take you home, get out quicker)
hmm, anyone got any other suggestions, have I forgotten anything?
there are other points, but I find a man between 35 and 45 is still interested in learning so teaching them to be Sitzpinkler (sits when peeing) is still possible
Right, sorry about all this, I am bored, it's a Monday and I am not motivated, starting a new job soon, so have time to think of such frivolities..
No worries. I'm more of an amused spectator (no wonder with these glasses!) than active participant in the dating game.
But quite honestly, I think there is no dating scene really. Young people often meet their partners on a party, and then it's ONS evolving into steady relationships.
Don't attempt to strike up a conversation in a tram, bus or train imho. Swiss people are obsessed with privacy, and having to flirt a stranger under the discrete observation of the whole compartment makes them very uncomfortable. But I'm sure you'll be a lot more successful when actually striking up a conversation by yourself, Swiss men/women are often a bit shy at first.
I hope you all had a spiffing time at the LEGO convention, as long as you didn't bring home the mandatory memorabilia now sitting on the table beside your bed...
Could you be more specific about being "hit on" I always wonder about that one... if they guys do it nicely, then it's surely a compliment... we all need the odd compliment, if you get some strange hand gestures or the seedy "get naked" look then I would classify that as unwanted... your experiences??