Tips on Divorce

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My husband is just plain childish at the moment, he knows that there is no way that any other person could be baby's father but if he wants to waste his money, I say, GO AHEAD . Unless of course the miracle of immaculate conception happened again after 2000 years

He is trying to use slander to win whatever he thinks his going to win. Stupidity never fails to amaze. He is trying to come across as a victim of some sorts but the facts prove different. (Poor student,no money, etc).

This man and his family has abused me for two years to the point of pscycologically terrorising me not only him, his mom, sister...

I fell into a depression and needed councelling because they have broken me down as a person. (My councellor & therapist will testify to this)

Some excerps of what he did...

1. Whilst I was in hospital in the ICU he went to all the neighbours in the apartment block where i lived to ask if they could hear me having sex...

2. Still in hospital. He called me banged what sounded like the bed against the wall and asked:'Does this sound like f@*&ng to you...'

3. Still in hospital. He called to tell me that he is going through all my underwear to check if i had sex with another man...

4. he called 2weeks after I was discharged from hospital and tells me:'I have a gun and 20 bullets and not afraid to use it...'

5. He comes to my apartment with his father to intimidate me, luckily i called a pastor friend and he as there in no time.

6. He told the pastor that:'this is my time now, i will finish her off....'

Why i had a baby with him... God knows. I quite scared not only for me but for my baby too. I am scared that because i cannot deny him to see my baby he will hurt her. I want to protect her and keep her safe but i also know that i will need his permission to take my baby out of the country. (he threatened to sue for full custody once she is born) This is the same person who wanted forced me to abort.

He is a sick sick person and should be locked up for good.

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Rene, a frank question - do you want to leave the country once this nightmare is over?

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Hi Rene, I don't mean to sound in anyway unsympathetic about your situation, but I just wanted to advise you again to be extremely careful about what you post here. As said before your identity is safe, but the more information you post, the more you might cause problems for yourself later down the line. For example you've listed a series of accusations against your ex, including quotes of statements you say he made. You also say "he should be locked up for good". While I understand the depth of your sentiment, I think we should try to keep this discussion to the facts. People are here to help you if you have any questions, or to offer you encouragement, but I feel that for your own sake you should try and keep it a little less personal.

I'm sure if you talked with a lawyer about your comments on this thread he may give you the same advice - it can't help your case in any way. Remember also that if his lawyer was able to get enough evidence they could force me to reveal information which may help to ascertain your identity via a court order, and I'm sure this would upset both of us

So please keep us informed about the progress of your baby, and the assistance you are receiving, but a little less detail on the evils of ex-husband. I hope you understand where I'm coming from, and I wish you all the best.

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I would like to stay, the safety and career opportunities will benefit me better and baby too.

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Unless in the mean time she married again in which case it would belong to her new husband...

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Hi there,

this link may help you to your questions.

Do not worry you have right in Switzerland!

http://www.binational.ch/en/fragen/trennung.html

Any questions please do not hesitate to ask.

Time

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Any one knows how to do a divorce do it your self?

We would like to divorce of common accord. I know it is possible to do that and is relatively easy. What I would like is an example of copy of a letter to submit to the court. We agree with everything on the financial part, and we have not children.

So, it should be very simple, and strait forward. We would prefer not to paid a lawyer.

[Moderator note: merged this post from a separate thread into this one, since it was directly related to the subject of "Tips on divorce"]

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Thank you time. My date for the court case is drawing nearer and I really hope can get all this behind me.

Just wish i could have gotten divorce straight away, nobody needs a sick person like this in his/her life especially not my baby.

He has made alot of allegations, hopefully one can suggest a psyciatric evalution before he sees my child. According to swiss law, i do not i the right to deny access to the child. The more i think about it, the more i realise that he just needed another mom, in essence, he probably got me here to work for him during his studies. With baby on the way, it meant less attention for him. He then lost his mind.

(Totally reversed huh, here they always say foreigners get married to the locals to benefit financially... )

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Mine finished 3 months ago....

If you have any questions mail me...

Sauron

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hi Rene, just wondering how you are doing...has your case been heard?

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Hi Muze,

Sorry for not keeping you up to speed.

My case was posponed due to pregnancy complications.

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flippin' heck, Rene - all's ok with regards to the little one, though?

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She is doing well:-). We just need to get through the next 11 weeks. Like the doc said, no stress and bedrest is all we need.

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(as in very good to hear it)

well hopefully the bump is a perfect spot to balance the laptop when laying in bed. I know my beer-belly is

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Hi Rene,

Hope you are doing OK on bed rest, I was on it for a time during both my pregnancies so I know how much it sucks. Do you have enough to entertain you? Do you need any books, DVD's to watch etc if so let me know and I will get some to you.

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Hi Lou,

Thank you for the offer . I play pc games and have plenty to read. I also read online newspapers - quite handy having a laptop.

it used to be but as of late she kicks quite hard. maybe she does not like anything parked on her roof:-)!

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Laptops are essential for a women on bed rest In fact they do such a great job of keeping you sane you should be able to claim for a new one on your health insurance

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how do you do that?!

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I was just joking! Having my laptop kept me sane while on bed rest, if I didn't have it I think I would have gone mad and cost my health insurance way more than the cost of the laptop.

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I think it was a SHOULD not CAN

Score one, by the way, for beer-belly over baby - it never kicks