https://www.estv.admin.ch/dam/estv/d...handlung_d.pdf
And this calculator: http://tagi.dwcdn.net/36NV2/3/
If I'm reading the graphs correctly, SZ for example doesn't penalize equal double earners. In ZG you'd be even rewarded at moderate (< 150k each) income levels. In both cantons you'd save significantly on taxes compared to ZH regardless of whether you marry or not.
So I think it's really worth considering changing the canton before the end of the year in your case. You'd both save on crazy high Zurich city taxes for 2016 (per another thread) and could get rewarded for marrying in another canton tax-wise
Many people on the average salary of Fr 70'000 would love to have your problem.
Remember, the tax laws apply to everyone, you have not been singled out for special taxes.
As a soon to be DINKie again (kids leaving home), I still prefer the Swiss system.
Under the current tax regime taxes are set to rise. Last year's increase was significant, and there is talk of another.
Additionally, a referendum is on the table to reform the tax system - a flat tax, with a doubling of the Vermoegensteuer. If this passes, who knows what the final tax system will look like.
230K falls into the 'middle income' bracket in terms of the tax reform debate. Depending on which political party you listen to you may or may not be happy with the results. Politically, the middle is spoken of as 50K-300K... but given the huge difference in that range perhaps arguments being bandied about are rather disingenuous.
SZ will remain tax friendly (Well, friendlier than some other cantons. Only the Aussersschwyz Gemeinden are low tax, the rest of the canton is not particularly tax attractive.) no matter what the outcome of the upcoming vote, but if you are seriously 'tax shopping', perhaps wait until you can at least evaluate what you are buying.
According to the polls, the vote will probably go against the intiative.
The vote is 25 Sept - but whatever happens it will take time for the dust to settle and new tax rates, whatever they are, to be implemented.
my wife was not pleased
Check your and your future wives monthly pay check summary how much goes each month in the pension pot.
So someone finally managed to pin you down, eh?