Creepy Landlord - looking through window

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It's a joke Megsch. Welcome to the forum.

I seriously wouldn't want some creep gazing at my child through the window. House windows ain't shop windows, I guess some people fail to see the difference...

Did you say his wife answers the phone? I think there is a neat opportunity to say, "we have had your husband gazing at our teenage daughter through our windows repeatedly, I wonder if he is shy and just wants to invite himself for a tea tomorrow? Do you want to come too?" You could also send a card inviting him for tea, since he has shown so much interest in your life... Aaah, bored folks, make me laugh.

It took me good few months to realize I had a whole legal office staring at me daily at 7am baby feed, glued to their windows. I never notice them gaze, then I realize they religiously sit in front of the windows every morning, like in front of the tv. The net curtains work great.

You don't even know if he's staring at her daughter and you want to imply that he may have paedophilic tendencies to his wife?

Would it make things better if he gawked at her husband?

Some things are just plain bad taste.

Making a guy out to be a pedophile without evidence is indeed just plain bad taste.

What has the OP actually said? She saw him walking away from his window? Is a guy not allowed to look out of his window anymore? She hasn't actually caught him staring into her window. All she has is the back of his head moving away from the window.

edit: Apologies I seem to have misunderstood. He was actually standing outside of the OP's window? Not very subtle I guess. Regardless I don't think you should phone his wife and tell her that your husband has been leering at my young daughter. We're all adults here and the landlord may have a perfectly reasonable explanation for this.

The fact of the matter is that she doesn't know who he's gawked at.

Or even if he was gawking.

He may have been checking the outside of the building and just happened to walk past the window at the time when the OP was looking out.

Personally, I'd forget about it unless he does it again.

Here's a little story:

Our neighbour lifted up the shutters on our bathroom one night and looked in - whilst I was in there! shock horror.!!!

It turns out, after much apologising from him, that we had got back from holiday a day earlier than he had thought - and he had heard noises from our apartment and he had come to check and it just happened that the bathroom had both a light on and had the window with the easiest shutters to lift.

Now if he had been too embarrassed to come round to see us after his actions, what impression of him would that have left on us?

Meh, OP said his behavior was strange way from the start. I would indeed call and ask what he wanted. If his wife picks up the phone, I'd ask her. I would also ask if he wanted anything from me, my hubby or my teen daugher. Sure. That's proly more diplomatic.

I find nothing perfectly reasonable in having the landlord checking on his tenants twice a week for longer period of time, nor him gawking in somebody's window and then driving off. Creep.

I see nothing wrong with calling and asking if he wanted anything.

On the hand, if one does not want others to assume weird things then one shouldn't act weird. And looking into somebody's place and then driving off is pretty weird.

It took me a long time to realize why everybody barricades themselves in where we live, shutters closed tight in the evenings..

Which is why God gave us phones to phone people in order to clarify situations.

Perhaps he noticed a defect with the window while he was walking past and decided to check it. Then he drove off as soon as he could to a window manufacturer in order to order new windows for the OP so that she doesn't catch a draft. Imagine the embarrassment the OP would have if he was planning on installing brand new triple glazed windows and she phoned his wife and called him a pedophile a few days before?

I know it's unlikely but people seem to automatically assume the worst in someone.

Exactly, you phone and announce yourself. Then you show up and do your inspection, right? You don't creep up behind somebody's window.

Ok. What kind of defects did he notice that he felt the urge to check on OP twice a week?

Nobody is calling him pedophile. What he is doing is pretty creepy, though. Your explanations are a little far fetched. I mean, it all could be right, but normal behavior is not to bug tenants 2x week, then stare in their windows and drive off, really. If people have normal reasons, there is no reason to act all strange, is there.

I don't honestly think he is, just a weirdo. But wouldn't want to be exposed to this kind of behavior, fo sho, none of my family. I would assume stuff if I had a reason. What OP stated would be a good reason enough to put a stop to it, since it is harrassing.

You can have all sorts of legitimate reasons for all sorts of weird behaviors, does not mean people have to put up with it.

Reading your posts, I feel you guys know the landlord much better than the OP

Hahaha...yeah, I know. Anal. I go iron and leave the thread alone.

Okay you win. I give up.

You want to make the pedophile posters or should I?

Awwww....you made me feel bad about that grandpa. I know. Better to leave that p idea out of the communication, and just merely buzz them and ask if they happen to need something. He might be just worried about his appartment and have some language issue.

Grandpa? I know I'm Scottish but a grandpa at 23

Enjoying the banter here ... but seriously, the best suggestions fall into two main options:

1) wait and see if he comes back to look again, or

2) call his home and ask if there's anything in particular for which he was there.

Other speculations have drifted a little beyond the commonplace (triple-glazed windows in a rental apartment? Seriously?!?!?!) but there you go ... it's the internet.

Hey, wasn't there some guy in the UK who's a grandpa at 29? Only 6 years difference ... although important years! Physiologically, it may be possible to be a grandpa at 23 ... any doctors of medicine or biologists out there to confirm/deny this?