Kiss on first date...pay for dinner....I am confused what is expected.
I am appealing to the englishforum community: Anyone interested in giving me the lowdown on what to do and what not to do?
make sure you pay for the meal. By splitting the invoice, you will never see her again...
I can't wait for some of the replies, is this for real
Unfortunately yes...it is very much a serious question.
Do some Jerry Lewis routines. I hear the French chicks dig that.
If is a date and you asked her out; I would definately pay becuase I am old fashioned like that.
I don't really see how you can ask a question like "Kiss on First Date". it all depends on the vibes, comfort and attraction; IOI = Indicators Of Interest
In fact, if You are English, and she is French, she may well end up making the move on you.
The advantage with French, Italian and Swiss, it is normal to kiss on the cheeks as friends anyway, so it is much eaiser to get to a French kiss stage.
A good move when saying good bye and you get the two kisses; is to then say but I am from Switzerland, and we are more generous and give three. It kind of breaks the ice.
Good Luck
okay, pay for the meal, no kissing on the cheek, no hugging just politeness and if you feel the date went okay ask to see her again.
Oh, I forgot, tell her she looks great (insert words of own choice "great eyes" ..) ask her questions about herself, do not speak about yourself, be totally involved in her, what she has done, does etc.
Good suggestions so far. Paying for meal is almost implied. However, not even a hug? That sounds a little bit too cold.
Pay for dinner and then go with the flow
Judge it on the day but generally women are not into getting mauled on the first date. They are put off quite quickly if someone becomes too tactile too quickly.
This must be the drum roll to have some female input here: ->
Au contraire, mon frere. I would expect to faire les bises at the beginning of the evening and again at the end of the evening. This is normal even with people you don't know (eg, other guests at a dinner party), at least for social occasions. She won't be the least bit shocked or offended -- quite the opposite, actually.
Play your cards right and you might get more than les bises at the end of the evening.
Agree, but if she really makes an issue for paying for her half, you still pay the whole but suggest that she might pay for the next one - she can choose the venue...
Expecting French women, then you only get answers via PM
I've just got off the 'phone to my Uncle Bertrand who gave me the following advice:
Do not wash for a couple of days before the date. French ladies are accustomed to the masculine aroma of an active gentleman, and will consider the use of soap to be a sign of effeminacy; Be careful in your choice of car: Leave the Bentley and the Aston Martin at home. It is better to borrow something French from a social worker or a teacher (should you know any), such as a Renault 5 or a Citroen 2 CV. She will delight in your automotive expression of love for la Republique. Be sure to fill it with plenty of petrol, as French ladies enjoy a good long ride after the first date; French ladies love novelty. Rather than taking her to yet another overpriced French restaurant with olives on the table and bits of old stick in jars, take her to a charming little Turkish imbiss at the back of the station. Become acquainted with the owner beforehand, so you can be greeted by your first name. You might also engage in a little light banter with the proprietor in Turkish, thus demonstrating your cunning command of linguistics. French ladies are always impressed by such performances; After paying for the meal (leaving a tip of at least 30% - all ladies love a liberal gentleman), help her with her coat, walk her to your car, and pounce upon her without delay. Do not even wait until she is installed in the passenger seat. Any hesitation at this moment will convince her that you are a lily-livered pansy, and all will be lost. Do not forget to use your tongue to its most devastating effect: They don't call it French kissing for nothing; You may wish to pause momentarily to remove your jacket and place it under her buttocks for her comfort. This will not be interpreted as 'hesitation', but will earn you 'gentleman points' which may be redeemed later in the evening; After you have satisfied her hunger, look at your watch, announce that you must go home as your wife is expecting you for breakfast, and leave. It is not necessary to bid her adieu, but you may wish to give her a small parting present of a couple of hundred Euros, to express your gratitude for the delight of her company. Should you decide to demonstrate your generosity in this way, it is acceptable to toss it on the tarmac as you drive away, in the traditional French manner; Do not call her, ever. French ladies have no respect for a chap who is too keen, like a labrador puppy. If she calls you, tell her that you are busy with your mistress, and hang up; On no account must you pursue anything resembling a 'relationship' or 'marriage' with her. There are quite enough French people in the world already, and they don't need any encouragement to breed. The French make terrible wives, anyway, as they put lemon in your tea. I hope these small tips prove useful to you. Should you require any more assistance, please do feel free to ask.
Good luck!
I don't think they are different from other women..... just same complication in your life.....
French women will never be in their 30-40s but will always be in their 20s. If I were you I would give up dating French women
Oh, I just love how many newbies are coming to the forum these days and ask for relationship/dating advice.
Englishforum on a friday night is so much better than the TV. Oh, and I am still just on my 20's, oh so many years to look forward too.
Hey Dougy baby, does your uncle happen to live in Geneva?
He gets around.
Mon dieu, are you speaking from personal experience?
I humbly refer you to my signature: