What is it about educated couples wanting to have children that makes it so bloody hard? As the parents of 3, we’ve had friends struggling to conceive ask us (or rather as per Nil’s thread , the Mrs has been asked, us men don’t discuss such matters) for advice. Poor them you might think, but then look at their lifestyles and consider the following: 1. The women under eat. Not just a little dieting here and there, but as in “put a normal plate of food in front of them and they play around with the food trying to hide it under the mash or cabbage leaf” type under eating. It helps if trying to get pregnant, if you’re not bordering on anorexic FFS. These people look perfectly normal and don’t need to diet. In one case the person in question needs to put some weight on – i.e. you’re 30+ not 13. 2. Sex. I hear the Mrs ask “have you been at it?” Answers range from: Well we’re so tired... Didn’t really feel like it, it wasn’t special... I feel like a reproductive hen, it is so off-putting... - in this last case you really need to decide if having a baby is what you want If by some miraculous chance, the answer is “yes we did”, the next question is “how often and when”, answers range from once to errr... once... and usually at a completely inappropriate time. Aarrrghh! Just literally f**k off. Literally. Go do it! Lots and lots. It isn’t like a one shot take a pill and be done with it wonder, while conversely you only get one chance a month. These are educated people we’re talking about. Given the birth rates amongst lower social tiers, it doesn’t take much to get pregnant, just base desires. 3. Having a relationship – off-hand comments and jokes like “we have to book ahead to see each other” usually have a grain of truth in them. If you don’t see your other half except at weekends and the female half’s cycle doesn’t match up, you guessed it, nothing's gonna happen! 4. Women’s cycle – and here I going into realms of the unknown – but really if you are serious about it, you need to work out when it’s all optimal. I’m not talking pseudo-science here, nor phases of the moon or best positions. Here’s a simple tip: get a product like the contraceptive kit Persona and use it inversely. No really, it isn’t rocket science. These people then spend a fortune on getting help from the NHS, using valuable time and money that could be used to save lives, clutching at the hope that really it isn’t their fault but there’s a problem that can be fixed. It is part of the greater malaise the inflicts modern (Western) society. Take responsibility for your actions and their consequences (or lack thereof). I honestly don’t know if this is already happening, but from what I hear it isn’t, but Drs/GPs who have couples wanting children should ask them to complete a 6-month diary of when/how often they are having sex. Only once they passed this simple “you’re doing it enough” test, should they be put forward for further support.
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