HI,
I don't know of anyone that has IVF in the US. Maybe there are others on this forum that might.
To be honest in most cases I have been told - by various Dr's & not all related to IVF - that you should expect to have around 3 attempts before being successful. But it all depends on the reasons why you cannot conceive - which can be very different in each case.
From various sources - Spain seem to be 'up there' in terms of success. Not sure which clinic you went to in Spain, but I can give you details of the one I went to in Barcelona if you PM.
We also had a colleague that recommended a clinic in Belgium and they had THREE successful IVF's!! But when we contacted the clinic they were very busy. So be prepared to have to wait (I understand every month is important depending on age/circumstance) - one clinic told me in December they are only taking people for February!!
I have heard very good reports about serum in Athens - personal care so on. However, there is also a 'waiting list' (I guess they can only take on so many cases).
Having been through a few rounds now, and had case file reviewed for another clinic, I think you have to be VERY strong and HONEST with yourself and your situation. As I am having to be. If your 'case' doesn't look good & depending on results from previous tries then a decent clinic will not take you on as they know what the chances are & don't want to get your hopes up (take your money). But it doens;t mean it is NOT possible.
Depending on what your research many of the additional services have been found not to increase chances at all
.... http://www.bbc.com/news/health-38094618 - just google and for a few...
Also some clinics don't charge extra for e.g. IUI but do it as standard - so really do your homework.
Not to mention the smudging of statistics of clinics 'successes'...not everywhere is measuring the same thing...an IVF pregnancy may not result in a LIVE birth...
BASICALLY, it IS a huge money making business. I should have prepared my self more for the 'probably not' option, but I didn't. I was ready to start next round in February & my otherhlaf said no more. Now trying to deal with the possibility that it won't happen for us now.
I'm not trying to dissuade anyone - quite the opposite, be positively optimistic - just go in prepared & be realistic.
Feel free to PM me with any questions.