Dearest Ace,
I do not know you in person but want to share my condolences. What you have gone through is truly heartbreaking and a real shock. Life has a way of just throwing so much at us…
Please take time to feel what you are feeling - I am hoping with time the memories will comfort you.
Sending many hugs your way and if you ever want to talk I am also there for you - sometimes speaking to strangers is easier 
I am so sorry to hear this. May her memory be a blessing.
My condolences!
I can’t imagine exactly what you are feeling right now, but I have gone through losing someone really close in the same way in front of your eyes. Losing someone is shocking enough, but in such a way and not being able to do something is worse.
Just take the time. Grief has ups and downs, there will be days when you feel “fine” and the days when you don’t want to get out of bed. but remember every beautiful moment you can and let it give you strength to continue.
Yes, the suddenness is what’s playing on me now. She was there, she reached for a drink of water, I wondered if she was getting up to make her first morning tea, as she was working from home that day. Then 60 seconds later she was gone. Yes. That quickly.
I’ve got the cats to look after, or to look after me. Two on the bed with me, making it seem not quite so empty, the other one on some of her clothes on the chest of drawers. They’re helping a bit, I think. Sharing here and in other places is also helping, letting me let the tears flow.
Desperately sorry to read this. Time is the greatest healer - grieving is healing too. My heartfelt condolences…
Sincere condolences dear Ace.
Oh my, this is heartbreaking, I’m so sorry. Please accept my sincere condolences.
@Ace I hope you’re doing OK. I was listening to this song just now and thought of you.
I cannot imagine what you are going through right now. Although I have not met you or your wife, it shines through from your posts that she was the centre of your world.
When my father died two years ago, my mother found it more difficult than she had ever imagined to process her grief. I bought her this book, which she said helped more than anything else as she felt that the author really understood. It cannot lessen the pain but I share it in the hope that it may help you too as you find your new path forward. Megan Devine | Books: It's OK That You're Not OK
Yes, I loved that song when Sting first did it, but this is quite different. Annie Lennox also did a version I saw quite recently on a televised concert.
Brought the first tears of the morning, TYVM.
I’ll add it to my list of songs to learn to play and sing. I’ve just been working up McCartneys’ MAybe I’m Amazed, which I’d never been able to master before. I made her listen to it a few years ago when we’d been having a row to explain how I really felt. I’ve just about got it now, works better for me in C rather than the B flat original.
Baby, I’m amazed at the way you love me all the time
And maybe I’m afraid of the way I love you
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you pulled me out of time
You hung me on a line
Maybe I’m amazed at the way I really need you
Maybe I’m a man
Maybe I’m a lonely man who’s in the middle of something
That he doesn’t really understand
Maybe I’m a man
And maybe you’re the only woman who could ever help me
Baby, won’t you help me to understand?
Maybe I’m a man
Maybe I’m a lonely man who’s in the middle of something
That he doesn’t really understand
Maybe I’m a man
And maybe you’re the only woman who could ever help me
Baby, won’t you help me to understand?
Ooh-ah
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you’re with me all the time
And maybe I’m afraid of the way I leave you
Maybe I’m amazed at the way you help me sing my song
You right me when I’m wrong
Maybe I’m amazed at the way I really need you
I really love that song.
I was bawling my eyes out at 2am too. Esp. reading the YT comments from those who shared their experiences of loss and grief.
Yes, I feel this version has a special quality to it. The following YT comment excerpt says it nicely: “Eva Cassidy’s rendition of Fields of Gold is nothing short of magical—a heartfelt and deeply intimate interpretation of Sting’s beloved classic. With her angelic voice, Eva transforms the song into a poignant reflection on love, loss, and the fleeting beauty of life. Her performance feels less like a recording and more like a whispered confession, a gentle reminder of life’s ephemeral nature and the preciousness of each moment…”
I wonder if anyone could, please, take a look at my other question from Friday, now the reason is clear?
My condolences ACE. This is the saddest news, I wish you and yours all the best.
Kevin
Sorry, I cannot help.
As I posted earlier do try to avoid hasty decisions.
After my father died I sold his car very quickly but soon regretted it.
Well the VW’s got to go, needs 4 or 5 grand spending to get it back to MFK state, and I’ve had it from new and had a lot of good driving from it.
The TT? Well, it’s a lovely car, but I have my Defender, I cant drive two cars at once.
I am sure you know your own situation best.
I like the flexibility of having two cars, one I use mostly in Summer and the other in winter.
In Switzerland with the “wechselschild” running two cars is no more expensive than one (excluding depreciation on newer models).
Well that’s not quite true, insurance for my VW+LandRover is something like 50% higher than either on their own, and there’s something close to chf500 per year in road tax. Oh, and repairs, MFK, regular servicing…
I am so sorry, Ace.
@Ace I’m so, so sorry to read this shocking news. My husband and I remember hanging out with you and your wife after the mod meet-up in Bern. She was a lovely person who enjoyed a good laugh.
Like most everyone here, the best advice I can give is to be kind to yourself and give yourself space to grieve. There’s no right or wrong timeline. You know how to reach me out in the “real world” if you need to talk.