Well, don’t ask seems to be the lesson so far🙄
Nothing, you’re good. As I said, silly people are quite widespread.
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Well… to a certain extent, anyway.
Groan. Keep the personal insults to yourself please.
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If there are swimming lessons about to begin, can your son not go into the male changing room with some of his swim buddies? At what age does your wife think it will be ok for him to go in alone? Because she’ll have to let him at some point. It’s very unlikely that something would happen in a busy public pool changing room imo.
Yeah, and I agree with you actually. He’s capable, but my wife prefers to accompany him at this stage. My question is about what others do in this situation so I can decide whether I have to take him myself or not.
Like, I know a lot of folk here swim and are ex pats with children, so likely it’s a situation that’s been encountered before.
That’s the point of the site I guess.
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No, the point of the forum is to ask for advice and then get judged. Remember, we’re all self entitled expats who’s opinions are facts! 
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There are no signs on the door at this pool. That was another post.
The swimming instructor, swimming instructor said that it was silly. Who else would have more experience?
I have my opinion, but asked for advice.
It’s really baffling to me why this is seemingly such an issue for some.
It is a gender changing room question. The hottest commodity in contemporary politics.
Which is ironic when we talk about common sense, and returning to old values. Something as innocent as this should be right up their street.
It’s not a topic I’m interested in debating myself.
No idea why the “at what age” question comes up so easily and thrown so casually when children are discussed. Come on, any adult is a collection of missed opportunities, mistakes, underachievement, failure and never met goals. No idea why we hold children to a higher standard than adults 
Is it a large common changing room? Because if it is just cubicles then I wonder what the big deal is as everyone should be dressed outside the cubicles.
Maybe if it is the showers or a common changing area, I can see the issue. But I guess it depends a bit on how old your boy appears.
Don’t blame you. There are so many male perverts in this land. But then again he could develop an identity crisis if you always send him to the womens changing rooms… Make it clear to him that he has to always tell you if there is any suspicious perverts in the male area who are harassing him.
I would say it does feel uncomfortable to have a boy in a changing room and probably also for him uncomfortable, unless there were like separate cabins then would be totally fine, but if it is just open space i think it would be best for everyone just that he changes himself in a men’s room, 8 is not a 4-year old that needs that much help, he goes to school and will have to do it at some point, a separate issue that your wife is afraid of that…well voice communication through the door can help…
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The pools I go to have unisex changing with changing cubicles and separate sex showers with shower cubicles. In this case I wouldn’t mind an 8 year old boy being there. BUT if it was open changing and/or open showers then I would not feel comfortable. I have a 9 year old nephew and I definitely think he is too big/old for a women’s changing area. I think Dad should take him, if solo is not an option.
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What is a sex shower?
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Separate-sex showers 
as opposed to uni-sex.
I realise that but speed-reading it, I thought WTF?
I remember going to a gym in Switzerland when a female cleaner comes in & mops the floor of the mens changing room as I walked out of the shower.