He went alone.. too new here to have friends.. Works too much!
I honestly am still really upset, and not sure what to do in my heart. All I know is that if I want this then we need council. I am not a mean spirited woman, but really scorned right now.. Best that he is gone tonight till late. I agree, strip clubs are supposed to be fun for groups of guys having a laugh, not by themselves to meet women and get their rocks off when they have a responsibility to their marriage.
I needed that! Thank you!
I dont know how people make relationships work. I find trying to trust someone is the most exhausting and depressing thing and I dont think I can do it.. and I dont think I would get over it if this happened to me.
I didnt read all 94285720432 pages.. so I'm not sure if something else was said/revealed on the pages I missed, but this guy said he was going Valentines Day shopping (left you at home again with his dog), came home drunk 7 hours later with a 500CHF bill from a strip club? And he wont spend money getting the dog trained? ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
My God I would be fuming. I am fuming.
I dont know how people do this...
a second thought:
does he seem to want to end the relationship, but he doesn't want to be the bad guy who "officially" ends it??
Was this guy (below) serious??
I am sorry for your woes too! I wish I could say something helpful but I am just soooo mad, I would have filled every sentence I've written with swear words if I could because thats how they were in my head.
When you say "council" do you mean like couples therapy?
I can imagine the mixed emotions. I'd be distraught and feel stupid (no offense intended obviously! just there are things that make me feel stupid and this would be one of them!) for giving up all that for him, but then you dont know if he has done enough wrong for you to actually leave him and it would be so hard anyway.
Ohh what a sh!tty situation I'm so sorry!
But really.... I REALLY dont think its okay..
How long have you been in Switzerland? Why did you move here? Do you work here or is it all just for him?
That place looks pretty harmless, and the prices don’t seem OTT.
For what it’s worth, I doubt he was in there shagging, or ‘not having
sexual relations’ à la Bill Clinton
What does your husband do? Does he need to entertain for business? Be entertained?
Was it the business’s cash or 500 quid of joint funds he can't afford to blow? If you're in business you sometimes (have to) do some smarmy things.....
This may or may not be what you want to hear. There’s a wide range of titty bars but it’s fair to say that just about anything is for sale, for the right price.
That doesn’t mean that it was on in this case, or that your bloke was dipping his quill where he oughtn’t have done.
Frankly, if the valentines dinner & keeping you on ice for 7 hours etc are true, you have some relationship issues that are beyond the scope of this thread.
This is not intended as any innuendo towards you, but I hate these salacious internet accusation things where you only get one side of the story
and the object of everyone's ire can't repond or defend him/herself.
Also, you’ve given so many details that your bloke or anyone associated with this tawdry tale can't fail to twig if they see it
Do you really want to play this out on a forum like this??
Good luck, signed (the cornered Mr Florida sweetie - not!)
sorry to be a bit negative Sweetie2, but to someone who has some experience
with dysfunctional blokes, that's a bad sign
(suitably caveated as noted above given the one-way nature of the muck being slung on these bog walls....)
See ^^more level-headed and experienced sort of advice..
Still makes me savage though, that men do this sort of thing for a business entertainment thing. I get it, that I am a lot less easy-going about this stuff than a lot of people.. and maybe I should lighten up but all the guys I've ever been with were jealous and possessive and wouldnt let me do sh!t like that if the shoe was on the other foot.. so I dont understand why its okay.
Also true about about all the details you write on this forum! He wont mind if people see it? I get in sooo much trouble for writing the tiniest little details of my life on here.
Ummm a little off topic, but on the subject of (possibly) cr@ppy husbands.. anyone know why "EastEnders" hasnt been active lately? She used to be online all the time and always had plenty to say on these topics and now shes been offline for months.....
For one, he does not belong to this site, he is on Basel expat to clear this subject matter up. Frankly I may just show him all this tonight when I am giving him a round of what I think, so he can see how his behavior is so unacceptable, and should I choose to leave him, he will have a full understanding as to why.
You're gonna get all the wrong answers here, sister.
Never believe an addict
So why did she chose lap dancing ... ah, they easy money for drugs !!
Tell you what, shagging your crack dealer, and all his friend would be far more degrading ......